Valentine’s Day can be such a wonderful holiday, full of love, romance, red roses, passion and gratitude for your significant other. However, the other 364 days of the year our focus tends to shift. You pay more attention to what you don’t value about your partner—annoying habits, different ways of doing things—than what you actually value, why you actually fell in love with them in the first place. The day after Valentine’s Day can be a rude awakening for how “romance-less” your daily life is– you wake up to your partner snoring, taking forever to get out of bed, and then forgetting to pick up groceries after work. It’s easy to forget why you first fell in love with them. But does the day after Valentine’s Day have to be a lunch bag let down? Can you still have romance in your everyday life? Of course you can!
Here’s a few great ideas for bringing Valentine’s Day in your everyday life:
Have a 20 minute daily catch up: Make 20 minutes a day to have a face to face conversation with your hunnie (with NO distractions, no children, no t.v, no phone, no computer). I’ve found this to be very helpful to make sure we’re both on the same page, and working as a team on a daily basis.
Schedule Date Nights: Schedule time for you and your significant other. In our busy world, full of the never ending to-do lists, and day planners, make the time to go out for dinner, and/or have a glass of wine together and just catch up on life. With our busy schedules, Michael and I have started doing this more and more.
Plan to watch a funny movie…and LAUGH: curling up on the couch with a classic comedy is always a great option. Laughing out loud together keeps you seeing the fun side of one another that you fell in love with in the first place.
Plan a vacation: Having something to look forward to is always fun! It can be as simple as planning a weekend away together to a B&B, or as elaborate as a three week long vacation to Bora Bora. Vacations are great for making you unplug from reality, if you can manage to stay away from your distracting electronics…(I’ve struggled myself!) When I come back from a distraction-less vacation, I’m that much more rejuvenated and ready to take on the world.
When I was doing some research about how to keep Valentine’s Day going throughout the year, I came across a great article by Noelle Nelson from Hitched Magazine. She suggests that you should make a list of all those things you value about your hunnie, both big and small. What a great idea! Whether it’s how he makes the coffee on Sunday mornings, or how much he worries about doing the right thing, or wants to cheer you up when you’re blue. Whatever it might be, write it down. Add to the list every day. Let your partner know, in words, how you value them: “I love how conscientious you are in making decisions, how you want to make sure you take everything into account.” This can be a great team-building exercise with your partner to show them how much you value them.
I hope that this helps you bring Valentine’s Day, love and gratitude in your relationship everyday. Our world needs a little bit more love!
Happy Valentine’s Day!
P.S Happy Valentine’s Day Michael, I love you so much sweetie! 2014’s going to be great for us! xo
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